It's become a hot topic on both ends on my newsfeed.
Happy couples posting photos every day together.
Another friend posting that they're tired of seeing mushy crap fill their feeds.
Another friend saying that truly happy couples don't post on Facebook about it.
This post will most likely be taken as a bias one, because I am a happily married woman.
I'm also the girl that doesn't want to see five thousand photos of your baby, every. Single. Day. I mean, he looks the same as yesterday honey. We all know about his cute bald head and every bowel movement. Thank you.
Do you want to see a photo of me and my husband, or any other happy couple, every single day like the bald headed (but cute, I'm sure) baby?
No.
Who would?
But, will I continue to "brag" on my social media outlets about my marriage?
You betcha.
Will I continue to shine a light on my husband in every way and in every form and at every opportunity that I can?
Absolutely.
I understand that as a single person, it's probably annoying to scroll through your feed and see couples hanging all over one another, giving forehead kisses and hash-tagging #blessed for every Instagram photo (I'm personally not a fan of the latter).
As a non-baby lover, I'm sure I make the same disgusted face when I see a baby covered in mayonnaise that you do over yet another kissing couple photo.
BUT-I want to stand up for those of us that are genuinely happy and regularly post about our spouse on our own pages and/or write continuously on their walls even when we are sitting right next to them.
I know that social media is often used as a highlight reel of everyone's best moments; they look happy, their makeup is done, their kids aren't hitting one another and everyone looks perfectly perfect.
It's hard to decipher truth from reality on social media.
We all know everyone was whining and crying before you took that photo and told everyone how #blessed you are.
Let me be real here: life is hard. Real hard.
When you marry someone, the right someone, you marry everything that comes with them. They become your person.
You want to share every stupid moment with them.
And because they are your constant in a chaotic world,
And because they are your logical when life makes anything but sense,
And because they are your life jacket when you feel like you're drowning,
You want to share every stupid moment with the world, too.
You want to share that because you still have your spouse to flirt with on their Facebook wall,
Because you still have your spouse to clink coffee cups with, read books with, sit in church with, go to concerts with, laugh with, cry with, celebrate with, mourn with, that there is still hope.
There is still happiness.
There is still balance when there's another person on the see-saw.
We don't do it to rub our happiness in your face.
We don't do it for your likes (that is an evil form of validation).
We don't do it for you. Period.
We do it for us.
Sure, I tell my husband how proud of him I am every day in person.
I grab his face and tell him who he is to me every afternoon.
But-public recognition is important to everyone.
We like to be told by our bosses how good of a job we are doing.
We like to be told by strangers in a grocery store how good of a parent we are.
We like hearing our parents praise us for doing basic, adult responsibilities.
Hey-it feels awesome!
Everyone deserves that pat on the back- including our spouse.
We don't want to fill your feed with fake, "look at us" photos, but we want to let the world know that life is freaking crazy, but you can still be happy as hell.
And when you're that happy, you WANT to share it and you SHOULD!
And when others are that happy, you SHOULD celebrate with them.
I'm glad you're happy about bald baby. Even though I don't understand it (like at all), keep on sharing that happiness!
And if it's a dog, please share even more.
Instead of scrolling through your feed and rolling your eyes at someone else, yet again, for sharing a photo of them smooching their significant other or posting on their wall from five feet away, celebrate with them.
They will celebrate with you too, in whatever form of happiness it is that you choose.
But please, #blessed only on photos of pizza or puppies.
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