no.
no.
No.
NO.
NO!
It's really easy to type, but in reality, it's so hard to say-especially for specific personality types (er, mine).
I know many of you have new year's goals that you're currently working through, some you've probably already tossed to the curb along with your garage treadmill.
See ya, piece of garbage! Back to my Netflix, who loves me back!
Fitness goals are great, but I want to discuss a goal of mine for 2018 that I feel more strongly about than losing those 5 lbs. gained over my mom's apple pie.
Saying 'No'.
To stuff.
To the extras, the non-necessities.
First, I want you to know that I don't feel we should always say 'No' just because we don't feel like it, or if it will make us just a little more busy-sometimes I believe God asks us to step out and serve others, to help de-clutter someone else's life even though it may complicate ours just a little more. Sometimes we are called to get a little uncomfortable and "inconvenienced" for the sake of others.
However, being a "YES!" person all the time is not healthy for you, your career, your children, or your marriage. Honestly, before this last year, I didn't see myself as a "Yes!" person, I simply saw myself as more hardcore than the average joe (I know, I needed humbled, ok? Back off)-
Hey, I can work multiple jobs and run my own small business and be a step mom and have foster children and serve at my church and bake homemade meals all at once, it's fine, I'm only dying inside and sleeping 5 hours a week, but it's okay, I'm okay! I can see sounds and hear colors!
This. Is. Stupid.
Friend, I don't care how young you are, this is a very unhealthy way of thinking/living. Unfortunately, I didn't recognize that just because it's a good opportunity, doesn't mean it's one I should say yes to. I saw every open door as the right opportunity, as a potentially missed opportunity.
In actuality, not every door, though what's on the other side may be good, is for you.
Not every "great opportunity" is meant for you to grasp, maybe for just this season, or maybe ever.
So, I've made it my 2018 goal to assess every opportunity through the eyes of God and my family in this particular season of life.
If I say yes to this, will it glorify just me or God?
If I say yes to this, how much time will it take away from my family?
Will I be rushing home after one job and rushing to another one in the evening, missing out on dinner table laughter with my children?
Will I be stealing away much needed alone time with my husband?
Is this opportunity only serving me or will it serve my family or others over me?
What will have to change in my life to make this opportunity happen?
How will my current priorities shift?
What will most likely be neglected?
Is this really my opportunity, or is it just a good offer that should be passed over as not a priority?
These are filters we "Yes!" sayers in remission should be asking ourselves. Living a successful, but constantly overwhelmed and tiring life is not truly successful, is it?
Are you willing to look better, richer, more successful, like you have it all together on the outside-
yet all the while feeling completely depleted, like you'll never catch up, do enough, collect enough degrees, certificates, etc. on the inside?
As you continue on your current resolutions, maybe assess and make new ones, or think about taking away from your life to add to it.
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